Forgive my Beastie Boys reference.
I was a senior in high school when that song came out. I spent countless hours driving around listening to that album, so it’s deep in my bones.
But it’s a fair question.
Last week I talked about attraction versus manifestation, but let’s back up a step.
Before you choose a tactic for getting, are you clear about what you’re wanting?
Especially if you want something different than what you have.
If you look at your life and think, “I want this and nothing more”, then high five & well done.
But if you look at your life and think, “this is all great, and I also want…more”, or “this cannot be my life. I don’t like anything about it.”
Then join the club.
Most of us want.
And yet, most of us aren’t totally sure what we want (even though we can write volumes about what we don’t want).
Indecision sucks. And feeling unclear is frustrating.
Wouldn’t it feel good to know what you want, then work on getting it?
So, back to the Beastie Boys and their song, So Whatcha Want.
One of the lyrics is
Where’d you get your information from, huh?
You think that you can front when revelation comes?
Two more good questions.
First, where is the information about what you want (your desires) coming from? Peer pressure? Societal norms? Your heart? Your soul?
Is it based in helping you be who you are becoming? Is it based in wisdom?
Start there: why do you want this thing? What’s influencing you to want it? Where’d you get your information from, huh?
Next, sometimes a desire is not a choice, or an option. It’s a revelation.
For example, have you ever desired to quit your job? Or follow your heart and have a baby or not have a baby, leave your partner or hook up with a partner, move a world away, make a big purchase, or make a drastic change?
If you have, then you know.
It wasn’t a choice. It was a revelation; a lightening bolt of clarity, a sudden gravity pulling you toward your destiny.
An unshakable want.
And if you think you don’t want it then you’re frontin’; indenial.
You think that you can front when revelation comes means that you can not withstand a gravitational want. You can’t deny it. You can’t look the other way. You will never not want it.
Because getting it will align you with who you are.
The revelatory nature, the lightning and the gravity, of the want is because your soul is done dicking around.
It’s time to upgrade, transform, and become who you’re meant to be.
(and listen, I’m obviously not talking about the false and vacuous want of addiction, OK? Clear?)
So if you’re not allowing yourself to want and desire because it makes you a martyr, pure and selfless, cut that shit out. It’s outdated.
If you’re not wanting because you’re afraid you won’t get it, toughen up.
If you’re not wanting because you don’t know what you want, get clear.
Desiring takes clarity, and also courage.
Just name it, you don’t have to take any action.
Name it, then spend the season wanting it. That’s the medicine of The Tantrika archetype.
So… whatcha whatcha whatcha want?
love & being home,